My Ma gave me some dude advice when she came to visit me over the summer.
She said that when she would ask my father if he wanted to do something he would always wait until the last minute to reply.
Tons of frustration later she finally found that if she reworded what she was asking then he would respond more quickly.
Instead of, “Would you do x, y, z with me later?”
She would say, “I’m going do to x, y, z, later. If you want to come that would be great, but if not then no sweat.”
He was more likely to do whatever if she phrased it the second way.
I’m finding that I have to do the same thing with my boyfriend.
His house flooded a few days ago with all the rain so he asked if I could wash the towels he brought over. He said they needed to be done by tomorrow if possible.
He’s also leaving for a business trip later and I’m taking him to the airport.
I called him up to ask him if he wanted me to bring up the half of the clothes that were clean or wait until it was all clean. His response? “Up to you.” …No. That’s not what I was asking. I then asked what time he wanted me to come up so that we could go shopping for his trip, and he mumbled something about pizza, and then he mumbled some more incoherent stuff, but not before being silent for a good 60 seconds. I asked for clarification on what he was saying and then there was more incoherent stuff and silence. I asked for more clarification and then he said, “Nevermind, I was joking.” ABOUT WHAT? I could only pick up pizza from what he was mumbling.
Finally, after more silence I said, “I’m going to take a quiz that I need to finish before midnight, and you call me back when you decide on what you want to do.”
Like shit, dude it’s not that hard. If someone is doing something for you then you should probably know the time frame in what you want it done in.
He’s got a habit of doing this though. Like I have two exams next week that I need to prepare more for. I need to study so if you give me a time frame then I can plan when I need to study…. sheesh.
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Anonymous said: what are some dating tips you would give to young girls?
- never let them know where you live
- drive yourself or have back up transportation in case things go haywire
- make sure you have your own money
- don’t send them nudes
- don’t assume your dates mean you’re in a relationship
- don’t assume having sex with them will mean you’re in a relationship
- keep an open mind
- don’t ignore warning signs